Suggested Opening Statements at Beginning and Ending of an Expert Giver Group Meeting:

Read at Beginning of Meeting:

Mission Statement:

The purpose of Expert Giver Groups is to provide a process led by humility and accountability, which removes the blocks of resentment, anger, and unforgiveness, then enabling love, service, and forgiveness as the means to advance human evolution—regardless of your age, gender, race, economic status, religion, or political beliefs.

The Seven Steps of Expert Giver Groups provides the tools needed to identify and remove the blocks in the way of individuals becoming of service to others.

There are no dues or fees for membership in Expert Giver Groups.  

Each group is fully self-supporting.  

Expert Giver Groups does not wish to engage in public controversy, and neither endorse nor oppose any causes. 

 

In the Seven Steps of Expert Giver Groups, “God” or a “Higher Power” are not mentioned.

 

This allows a place for everyone to work through the steps, regardless of their beliefs. 

 

The 7 steps remove the blocks to one being of loving service to others.

 

 

The 7 Steps of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form) 

 

Step 1: Finding a Mentor in an Expert Giver Group with the Goal of becoming less Selfish and more Unconditionally Giving and Forgiving. Become humble and teachable, by finding a mentor in an Expert Giver Group and by committing to being honest and accountable to that person.

Step 2: Completing Your Five Personal Inventories and Review them with Your Mentor. As you complete each of the five personal inventories in Step 2, arrange a meeting with your mentor to humbly and honestly go over each personal inventory together, being open to feedback that helps you to see things that you could not see on your own. 

(a) Resentments and Anger: We examine our anger and resentments toward ourselves and others to remove them.

(b) Our selfishness, inconsideration, dishonesty, and jealousy: We must determine where these exist and remove them from our intimate relationships. 

(c) Unforgiveness and Hatred: We practice forgiving ourselves and other people who have hurt us.

(d) Fears: List them.

(e) Character Defects: We examine which ones we have to start removing them.

 

Step 3: Share secrets you feel guilt or shame about with your Mentor or a Priest.

 

Step 4: Making a List of Amends and Reviewing It with Your Mentor. Make a list of amends that you owe to others and review the list with your mentor. 

 

Step 5: Making Your Amends. After you review with your mentor which amends to make and how to make them, start making those amends. 

 

Step 6: Continue Taking Your Personal Inventory and Promptly Admit When You Are Wrong. Continue reviewing your resentments, unforgiveness, intimate relationships, fears, character defects, and conditional giving—promptly admitting when you are wrong, and making amends immediately when you cause harm to others. 

 

Step 7: Mentoring Others. Offer to become a mentor for others who are willing to go through the above steps. Be as unconditionally giving as you can in service to others. Be open to starting an Expert Giver Group in your area. 

 

The Ten Guidelines of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form) 

 

1. Our common welfare comes first. Personal development depends on the unity of the group. 
2. Leaders in Expert Giver Groups are trusted servants; they do not govern. 
3. The only requirement for membership in an Expert Giver Group is the desire to become an Expert Giver. 
4. Each Expert Giver Group is autonomous. 
5. The purpose of each Expert Giver Group is to support the methods and content provided by the 7 Steps. 
6. An Expert Giver Group should never offer or lend the Expert Giver Group name to any facility or outside enterprise. 
7. Every Expert Giver Group should be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. 
8. Expert Giver Groups should remain forever voluntary and nonprofessional. 
9. Expert Giver Groups have no opinions on outside issues, so the name Expert Giver Groups should never be drawn into public controversy. 

At general meetings, there is to be no discussion of outside business of any nature. At business meetings, the discussion is to be confined to the group’s business.

 

 

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This meeting is from (starting time) to (ending time) 

If you have a cellphone, please silence it. 

 

Each person says their name and how long they have been attending the meetings.

 

After this is complete, say the following:

Everything said here in the group meeting and outside from member to member must be held in confidence. 

At this time, we break briefly for the seventh guideline, which states that “Every Expert Giver Group should be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.” We have no dues or fees required. A basket is passed to cover the expense of rent (If rent is necessary- none collected if space is donated.)

(Pass the basket) 

The topic for this meeting will be _______________ _____________________________________________. 

(The Chairperson will briefly share with the group about the topic and then invite the members to share. Topics may include one of the Seven Steps) 

Read at Close of Meeting:

I would like to say that the opinions expressed here were strictly those of the individuals who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. 

The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of these rooms. 

Let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. 

 

Please join me in closing… 

(Stand up, hold hands, and then repeat the following together, line by line:) I will do my best in all circumstances to be kind, patient, tolerant, 

humble, unconditionally giving, and forgiving with everyone. 

So be it.